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“The act of giving milk itself is pleasant and soothing; it’s not that I am eager for it to end. And it’s not that it is uninteresting, between the strange palpable effects of the oxytocin and the mesmerizing face of the latched baby. It just doesn’t fit into the matrix of productivity or purpose or attention I’m accustomed to. It is simply being, mammal-animal being, layered with a human consciousness as thin and light as linen.”

Sarah Menkedick on breastfeeding and boredom.


What lessons did you unintentionally learn from your parents? What unintentional lessons are you teaching your kids?



"Mama looks funny! Mama looks like nana. Mama is the same shape, and the same color. Mama looks like nanny!"

- in regards to my hair being all poofy and curly (like my moms) right now because I haven’t styled it yet.


Here’s a question for parents of little girls: do you encourage your daughters to say thank you when strangers tell them they look pretty? I am really resistant to doing so because I think it’s training them to expect and tolerate unsolicited comments on their looks, to learn to ‘take a compliment’ — basically preparing them for a lifetime of sexual harassment. At the same time, I don’t want my daughter to be seen as rude — for her own sake as much as anybody else’s — and it’s a thin line between teaching politeness and teaching submissiveness. Sometimes I can’t even tell the difference myself, so how do I explain it to a four year old?

For me this is further complicated by being a middle class white woman in the rapidly gentrifying neighborhood of Crown Heights. I sometimes worry that not saying thank you could be perceived as snobbish if not racist. This is also something I have NO IDEA how to even begin to explain to a four year old.

I know that people mean well when they make these comments to little girls, and I know that some people will be thinking I should stop overanalyzing and just, well, take a compliment. But I don’t think these comments are harmless, because the “pretty” comments will turn to “sexy” comments before we know it, and because we don’t train our little boys to be polite in the face of the never-ending barrage of comments on their looks. I don’t want to teach my daughter that either.





Like seriously.

Still kills me. Every. Single. Time.


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We have to be the biggest promoters of our own stories.  Can’t  depend on CNN to promote inspiring black stories. Just wanted to share this story.

“Graduating from university is normally an occasion for a family get-together.
And this was certainly a big celebration for the Ogunsanya quadruplets who were handed their well-deserved degrees from the same university on the same day.

The 23-year-old quads, identical sisters and the oldest by four minutes, Toks and Temi Ogunsanya, and identical brothers, Tobi and Tolu, graduated from Warwick University with Master Degrees.

And there was not a jot of sibling rivalry as all four have landed jobs in the City already.

Toks graduated with anMEng in manufacturing and engineering and Temi, Tobi and Tolu all gained an MSC in management from Warwick Business School.

‘The fact we all chose to study at the University of Warwick was a natural decision,’ says Tobi, who thinks a bit of sibling rivalry is essential for success.

‘We are a close-knit family and were all attracted by the strength of the courses on offer.

‘We all gravitated to similar courses because we’ve always been interested in business and management and our father is a successful businessman in Nigeria.’

The quads, originally from Lagos, Nigeria, have been living in the UK since the age of seven when they began boarding schools. Since leaving university they have all landed top city jobs.

Toks is due to start working for RBS in London later this year, Temi, who interned at Santander over the summer, has been offered a permanent position with the bank, and Tolu is due to start working for one of the ‘Big 4’ accountancy firms in the City.

‘Our parents are four times as proud of us,’ added Tobi, who is mulling over two offers from two major City firms.

‘They’ve supported us financially and have encouraged us all the way - without their help we wouldn’t be here today.’ “

Source (DailyMail.com/UKnews)

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look at the african excellence, y’all. everything na quadruple, druple.



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this is such an important post


"glassy, jarred look"

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